One of my deepest struggles with evangelical Christianity is the dualism through which this version of faith views people. In or Out. Good or Bad. Saint or Sinner. Christian or non-Christian. Believer or non-believer. Heaven or Hell. These distinctions just don't hold water for me, especially because they are often used to label and to […]

Faith deconstruction seems like a natural by-product of life. The faith of our childhood, our young adulthood, should morph, change, and become more mature. If I still have the faith of an 18-year old at age 58, something went seriously wrong. Six months ago I left a church I attended and was a part of […]

For all my female friends facing the trauma of buying a swimsuit. A repost ... ********************* Spring may finally be spring-ing. You know what that means? Swim suit season is just around the corner. The catalogs arrive and women shudder.  Men, I have to believe, don't give it a second thought. Have you ever heard […]

I want to earn my way. I want to live in the world of achievement and merit. I prefer to prove myself worthy ... of God, of love, of my existence. There is another way, though. A way that differs from the world of merit like day differs from night. And I turn to Robert […]

"To struggle used to be to grab with both hands and shake and twist and turn and push and shove and not give in but wrest an answer from it all as Jacob did a blessing. But there is another way to struggle with an issue, a question -- Simply to jump off into the […]

"I heard an old man speak once, someone who had been sober for fifty years, a very prominent doctor. He said that he’d finally figured out a few years ago that his profound sense of control, in the world and over his life, is another addiction and a total illusion. He said that when he […]