Point #5 in my Top 10 List for Parenting Young Adults is: Don't take it personally … These were the exact words of my daughter during our conversation about what young adults wish their parents knew: "Parents should not react to our decisions about how we choose to live as if they are a personal […]

Back to point #6 in my Top 10 List for Parents of Adult Children - Have healthy boundaries! As parents and kids navigate the turbulent waters of kiddos becoming adults and parents of kiddos becoming parents of adults, the concept of developing healthy boundaries is right at the top of my "what keeps relationships healthy" […]

Moving on to point #6 in my Top 10 List for Parents of Adult Kids: Have healthy boundaries. Let me first say a word about what boundaries are NOT. Boundaries are NOT an excuse for choosing never to see your kids again; for cutting them out of your life. Boundaries are NOT an excuse for […]

Before I move on to point #6 in my Top 10 List for Parents of Young Adults, I want to take a brief interlude to talk about an issue that parents of young adults often deal with: Caring for aging parents. No wonder when we are in our 40's, 50's and 60's we are often […]

I was talking with my parents the other day about this idea of not using guilt in our relationships, especially the relationships between parents and grown children. My mom, who happened to be in a hospital bed at the moment with wicked bronchitis, perked up when the topic of parents using guilt arose. She gathered […]

Point #7 in my Top Ten List for Parenting Young Adults is No Guilt. Do not try to make your kids feel guilty about the amount of time they spend or don't spend with you. It doesn't work. "Ok," you might say … "If I can't use guilt, what do I do instead? What if […]